We have been always told about love….that we need to find it, fall in it and look for it in that one special soulmate.
But I think these are all lies….this whole thing about being in love and out of love is delusional one …it’s a state of being…either you are in that state or you are not in it.
Love is a momentary craving for some, like a desire…a desire is not love, let’s not mistake desire for love, we think love is give and take…your actions their actions. Expectations and when the expectation is not fulfilled we start hating them so this is a kind of transaction and love is not a transaction.
We depend on our partners for sense of belonging, approval, we depend on them for all sorts of things and when they don’t deliver we stop loving them this is dependency and not love. Let’s not mistake love for dependency.
And when we fall in love we want them to complete us and fulfil our every desire because we were seeking to possess them so let’s not mistake possession as love.
So what’s love?
It’s when you don’t own the other or possess the other or control them in any way, true love doesn’t need any condition to exist ,it never asks you to lie about yourself …it accepts you as you are.
True love doesn’t see the outside of you; it sees the inside of you, your essence.
True love is freedom, if you are not feeling free in your relationship that isn’t even love.
This feeling when you are flying free in a limitless sky is so beautiful and then you discover what love is, and everything else is just imitation of real love…so love is always within us. All along..
(written by Raavya Sarda)