Why you wanted to adopt a child, aren’t you able to produce one biologically, how will you take care of a child- it’s a woman’s job. I was bombarded with all these questions by people while adopting Avnish, So legal issues aside the society wasn’t very kind to me!
After one and half years of struggle, I adopted 22 months old child with Down syndrome as a single parent in 2016.
Since then our journey has been very adventurous.
He is one of the best gifts from the god and I feel blessed to have him.
Avnish taught me to become a parent; it’s a stereotype that only females can take care of a child. Because of which I had to face a lot of issues during adoption.
After adopting avnish I started counselling parents with special needs across the country and I don’t do this alone. My six year old son accompanies me wherever I go.
I and Avnish have been to more than 22 states for meetings, workshops, conferences and 1000+ talks to more than 50 cities. We are connected to 10,000 parents around the world. Avnish is right in front, motivating parents who have children with special needs.
We were also invited to the United Nations to participate in a conference for work done by me.
My son was earlier diagnosed to have two holes but without any medical intervention the holes have filled.
He is 6 years old now and is still facing some medical issues and has to undergo two surgeries which are important for his life and he will be operated soon.
My vision for my son is to grow up normally yet be different and unique. Its important that he polishes his EQ rather than work on building his IQ.
He has been enrolled in normal school in Pune and he has started to learn a lot of things. He loves Bollywood music and playing dhol.
I wish for him to paint his life’s canvas with many bright colours.
Last year I was felicitated ‘world’s best mommy’ on womens day. It’s a wonderful feeling as I believe parenting is just not gender based.
I have never put myself into any character of mother or father.
I have always tried to become a good parent for him and a good human being.
And the best part is Avnish has accepted me as a parent!
(Interviewed and written by Raavya Sarda)